Feelings are not easy to manage. They are like a reservoir that can lose its calm at any moment. You will be able to relate to this feeling of getting overwhelmed when you experience the loss of a loved one. Grieving and mourning are natural processes but they should not take a toll on your health or your emotional stability.
Crying for them and the enormous loss that you have been through is a way to accept that the person is gone. It is vital that you take every process seriously and do not let your emotions take over your life. You must learn to find different ways to remember them and also find a productive and correct way to live your life without them. Let’s begin this journey of healing with a few basics you should be aware of when it comes to dealing with a loved one’s loss and simplifying grief for everyone around you:
Are You Dealing With Complicated Grief?
There are several cases in which the grieving period does not tend to conclude. This is called complicated grief. The person mourning the loss of a loved one is not able to keep up with the pace of their life and loses track of their existence and the people around them. This is also called unresolved grief and it can be very complicated to handle. A few of the symptoms may include the following:
- Inability to accept the passing of the family member or friend
- Continued disbelief that the person is already gone
- Emotional numbness or lack of emotional reaction
- Intense sorrow and unimaginable pain that may only be known to them
- Bitterness and anger, frustration and regret
- Constant blaming oneself for the death of the person
- Wishing to die or to be with the person who has already passed
- Avoiding any reminders that may force them to deal with the situation
- Continuous longing for the deceased
- Feeling that their life has become meaningless
- Feelings of distrust and detachment with others
- Trouble in concentrating on other aspects of life
- No desire to pursue any interests whatsoever
The only way to get that individual out of complicated grief is to have positive conversations with them. They may also be in the need of personalized mental health treatments so that they can cope with complicated grief. This is a situation that calls for a lot of support and understanding from your loved ones.
Coping With Your Loss With The Right Company
It is important to let your emotions flow. You must let yourself feel the pain because there is no other way to vent out your deep emotions of regret, frustration, or any other feeling that you may have inside your heart. Talk to your friends who have suffered a similar loss. Send out an online obituary and invite people from your families and friend circle to help you through this process.
Accept that you must experience this pain so that you can get out of this difficult situation and transition into the healing phase. Remember, human interaction is very important when you are trying to manage your feelings and get on with your life after your loved one has passed away.
Going Through Family Changes After A Loss
Whenever someone close to you passes away regardless of whether they were in your family or your nearest dearest friend circle, you will notice a few changes in your immediate circle. Every family, for instance, has a different way of coping with death. The attitudes and reactions of your family members in particular will largely be shaped by their cultural and spiritual values. They will also be impacted by your relationships and the equation among the family members. When you have suffered such a loss, it also means that the roles of certain family members are going to change drastically.
Their responsibilities are going to increase as time passes by. Some individuals in the family may have to take up the role of the deceased quite early on. This puts a lot of stress on your family and everyone around you. The most practical way to avoid burnout in such a situation is to communicate with one another. Give yourself and each other a little more time to understand what responsibilities one may have to shoulder from here on out. Cooperate with one another and be more sympathetic and empathetic towards each other.
A Few Comforting Things To Say/Do When Helping Your Dear Ones Cope With A Loss
1. You must acknowledge the entire situation. Try to use more honest words and phrases when expressing grief. The words “died” or “death” should be used a little more openly so that people do not hesitate to talk about their feelings with you.
2. Be genuine towards the person and their loss. If you do not know what to say, tell them that you don’t know how to express your grief. The important thing is that you let them know that you care.
3. Express your grief more openly and offer your support by asking them if there is anything you can do for them. Do not assume anything.
4. It might sound like a pointless question but you must ask them how they are feeling and listen to them express their sorrows and feelings.
5. Be there for them whenever they want you the most. Even if you lend a supportive shoulder or an ear that can listen to their grief and sorrow, that will be enough for them to recover.
6. You must also learn how to give them a little bit of reassurance without trying to mitigate the intensity of the loss that they have suffered. Do not assume that you know how they feel.
In The End…
It is all about being there for one another in difficult times. Just by being supportive of each other, a lot of their pain and sorrow can be managed. Nobody says that it is going to be easy but it shouldn’t be that difficult to resume your normal life once you are done grieving and venting out your emotions in a healthy way.